How I evaluated myself and how others evaluated me, when it
comes to communication, verbal aggressiveness, and listening skills, were
similar and different. We all concluded that my verbal aggressiveness was
moderate. I was surprised to see that I evaluated myself as people-oriented when
it came to listening skills because I would have thought that I’d be
time-oriented. Sadly, it perturbs me when someone goes on and on about one
thing and doesn’t get to the point. I find myself zoning out and thinking about
other things when people do this in conversations with me. If I know the person
enough, I’ll cue them to get to the point, but if I don’t know them that well I
try to help them with their story.
The other result that surprised me is that others viewed me
as being calm when I talk in front of others. My friend even said that he
thought I enjoyed talking in front of people, when in fact I hate it. I get
entirely too nervous. My heart beats faster, I start to sweat, and I worry
about what I am saying so much that I feel that I talk 100 mph! However, others
think I speak significantly well in front of others. I must cover my
nervousness up pretty well!